Mental Health

Jul 17

Getting Your Ex Back

Does love make you feel like those old cliches? You know the ones, love and be loved, although it requires effort, it feels effortless – because of the love you both share. Yadda, yadda, yadda.

Remember that dessert that the two of you shared? Well you are going to have to savor it , because most folks need space straight after a break up, so trying to get your ex back is going to depend on the details, and the details can be as individual as humans. Sometimes, you need to move quickly if you want a shot at getting your ex back, and other times, you have to give your ex a bit of time to miss you.

You do need to remember, that there are only two of you that know the whole story. Granted, you need your friends and family for support, but be careful of the advice you take from them. Remember, they were not there, they did not experience the situation and sometime their advice can kill something that could have been rekindled. Their intentions will always be noble, but they just were not there.

That is not to say that you should not use your old friends and family for support. Call your old friends and get out of the house. You need to develop some sidetracking and distractions, so that you do not become so totally consumed by the situation, you are not able to think straight.

There is also no point calling your ex if you know that they are ignoring you, it will only make them more annoyed, and you more upset. Lay off the phone and enjoy your life, contrary to popular belief, you did have a life before you met them. In most instances you should give it a week or two and they may be in a more receptive mood.

Yes, you have to recognize when it’s time to cut your losses and move on. However, in many cases the problem can be easy to pinpoint, so if both parties are agreeable, you can then work on solving it. Yes, even those that have been apart for years have been able to rekindle the love they once shared. And there is sometimes an added bonus – the love is stronger and deeper than it ever was.

There is a right way and a wrong way to trying to get your ex back, and if you attempt it the wrong way,
chances are you will screw up your chances of a reconciliation by acting abnormally. That is, you could panic, act desperate, or argue, which only serves to drive another nail into your relationship coffin.